Tuesday, May 23, 2006
What Was Right for Her
One woman’s story on becoming a single mom. I thought this was interesting, especially after reading the comments. Several of them indicated that this woman “did what was exactly right for her.” This is telling of our modern culture and how truth is not deemed absolute but relative. Each person must find their own truth.
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Selfish
Comment A: It's not a surprising perspective when 1) she clearly doesn't view her life through the lens of God's will/plan/purpose, and 2) she works for Sarah Lawrence (nice little bastion of liberalism and post-modern thought).
Comment B: If one doesn't view life throught the lense of God's will/plan/purpose, why not just take control of your life (man or no man, or woman for that matter) and have a kid or two or five? Seems perfectly exceptable from her perspective on life.
Comment C: Seems like a lot of money, hard work, and sleepless nights, just to fulfill your Plan A desires. I think I'll just stick with God's plan and taking care of other people's kids.
It does seem perfectly "exceptable"
oops..."acceptable." That's an ironic slip.
I sympathize with her. If I'd reached 40 without any prospect of a husband or baby, then her Plan B would look very attractive.
What is disturbing is the idea that it's just as good for the child to grow up with a phantom father as with a real one. I watch Darren with the kids and realize how much more he gives to their lives than I could do alone.
I'm not saying a woman can't do it on her own -- my mother raised five kids for four years without a husband, and years longer being in charge despite another marriage -- but it's damaging to assume that men are pretty much dispensible after their biological contribution.
-- SJ
I sympathize with her as well....because that *would* look attractive if you were all alone. I'd be lonely and the idea of having someone around who....well....really *has* to be with her in this case....would seem somehow satisfying.
At the same time - I canNOT imagine going through pregnancy alone. Therefore I can't imagine that I'd enjoy raising a child alone. Without J around for the pregnancy part alone it would somehow seem less satisfying.
Then there's the kid -- who realizes that they were around to fill a need. Talk about pressure.
All in all, something like that IS incredibly selfish and, as JRP pointed out, she clearly doesn't view her life through God's lens. Which is sad.
I think that is seriously one of the saddest things I've ever read. And I don't even mean the baby part--I mean the fact that she said *twice* "I am absolutely on my own." It's so. . . resigned and utterly hopeless sounding.
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